Sexual Purity

When temptation presents itself, God will give us a way to escape. 1 Corinthians 10:13 “There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make away to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.”

We live in a society that thinks sexual purity is old fashion. They believe you should be able to have sex whenever you want, how you want, with who you want, but there are consequences around us partaking in sexual immortally.1 Corinthians 6:18 “Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.” We are hurting our own bodies when we choose to have sex outside the bonds of marriage.

What is sexual Purity: It is the active choice to refrain from sexual activity outside the bonds of marriage. It is the decision to guard your heart and mind by not allowing impure thoughts or attitudes to take over.

My name is Pastor Eboni Johnson and I am the author of Half Flesh Half Spirit: The life of an Ex-fornicator let me give you a little background on myself. I was molested as a child and as a teen I was raped by a peer. How could a God that loved me allow these things to happen to me? I was a hurt and abused girl that used sex as a way to escape. I was familiar with the word of God but I didn’t have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. I said that so you would know God has no respect of person, if he delivered me, you can deliver you too.

Once God sets you free, you have to remain free.

In order to remain sexual free here are four things that helped me and I pray will help you too:

1. You have to have a prayer life - You have to cry out to God for help. I just didn’t have sexual spirits, I had soul ties. A soul tie is like a linkage in the soul realm between two people. It links their souls together, which can bring forth both beneficial results or negative results. Sometimes the only way to remove this is through fasting and prayer. I believed that God would deliver me, and he did. God hears a sincere prayer.

2. Read your word – the word of God is cleansing to our soul. The word also helps in transforming the mind. Just don’t read it, meditate on it. Allow the word of God to sink in. When you are doing this, it is building up your spirit man so it can stand when temptation presents itself.

3. Obedience - I had to be obedient to God’s instructions for my life. Did I want to have sex again? Yes! But God would tell me you don’t need to talk to him, you don’t need to call him, don’t go over there, don’t watch this on tv. You will never be free if you are not obedient. You have to allow God to lead and guide you. Obedience is better than sacrifice.

4. Let others help you - I thank God for my Pastor, she would allow me to sleep on her couch when the temptation was too strong. God never design for us to do this thing alone. He gave us the body of Christ so we could have a support system. You need people that will give you godly counsel, that you can lean on for that support, and that understands what you are going through. Make sure you have someone around you that will hold you accountable.

If you make the decision now to abstain from sex and to live a pure life, then you will already know the answer before you encounter any compromising situation. The enemy never gives up he is always somewhere lurking to see if he can get you back. If you follow these instructions, you will be strong enough to withstand the wiles of the enemy and remain sexual pure.

Sexual Immorality is one of these things that you have to have a made-up mind I want to be free. No one can do it for you. A lot of time sex is us just looking for love in the wrong place. We think by laying down with this person I will feel better. God leaves a void in all of us that only He can fill. Alcohol, drugs, sex, and etc. want fill it. When you make up your mind then comes the transforming. We are transformed by the renewing of our mind. Don’t allow visions of sex, or thoughts of sex to come in your mind. Pull down those strong holds and vain imaginations. It starts with a vision or thought then becomes an action Sex is progressive, meaning one act leads to another. It doesn’t “just happen”. You have to set boundaries and stick to them. Keep your mind on things that are spiritual. You need to spend time praying, reading your word, hanging with the saints (the ones living like you). Then you get through one day, then a week, then month, then years. It is a process. Sexual purity allows you to be free to do the will of God without compromise. I have been celibate or sexual pure for over 8 years and every day I have to continue to follow these instructions to remain free.

I pray this helps someone like it has helped me